We have all been there – in the beginning of a relationship, things seem perfect and way too good to be true. We go out on dates, meet one another’s friends and seem to have a good time no matter what we are doing or where we are. Over time, daily texts turn into weekly texts, the flame of passion starts to dim, and anything and everything your partner says just gets on your nerves.

If you are in a similar crisis and feel like your relationship is over or coming to an end, a million thoughts are running through your head. From fear, to anger to heartbreak, the rollercoaster of emotions we experience can sometimes be all too overwhelming. Thankfully, Marguerite Picard, a family lawyer in Melbourne, has shared with us some tips on how to cope with closure. What do you do when you know a relationship is over? Read on to find out more.

  1. Speak To A Therapist
    We urge you to get over the stigma that surrounds going to visit a therapist or seeing a shrink – there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing so. In fact, seeing a counsellor or therapist can be one of the best things you could do for yourselves, especially when you are mourning a relationship.
    After a breakup, you are going to be a trainwreck.
    You will do things that you never thought you would ever do, and you will act up at the slightest comment anyone makes about your now past relationship. Most of all, you will need someone who is unjudging to talk to. Seeing a therapist can help keep your mind healthy and your thoughts sensible, as therapists can help you step back into reality and make the best choices from that point forward.

 

  1. Take Care Of Your Body
    Going on a breakup diet, or a “revenge body” diet is not a good idea, so don’t subscribe to what the media tries to shove down your throat. You have gone through enough, so the last thing you need to do is put yourself on an unhealthy diet plan whilst running 20 km a day.
    Indulge in healthy foods that are high in fiber, protein and nutrients that help boost your mood and energy. Get out and take a walk in the afternoons – you deserve that Vitamin D that the sun so kindly gifts you with. A balanced diet and healthy lifestyle can help counteract the physiological stress of breakups, so treat yourself well.

 

  1.  Work Through Your Issues
    Learn to channel your disappointment, anger and heartbreak into something positive.
    Whether that may be through music, exercise, painting, cooking or some other outlet, it is time to take something negative and make the best out of it. Some of the best painters and musicians have produced their best art after a breakup or when under extreme levels of stress, so be like that Phoenix and rise from the ashes!

 

  1.  Acknowledge Your Mistakes
    All too often, people go into their shell and hate on everything about the relationship that just ended. They hate on their ex-partner, their friends, and basically anything that has any connection to the relationship at all. Being bitter and spiteful are definitely not the ingredients to a happy healthy life, so learn to let go.
    Acknowledge the mistakes that both you and your ex-partner made in the relationship, and use it as a learning point as to what not to do in future relationships. If you look closely, every experience in life has lessons to teach if you are willing to listen and learn.

 

  1. Give Back To The Community
    This may come across as a weird one – what does the community have to do with your relationship? Well, the honest answer is nothing. However, don’t let that stop you from helping others who are in need. It has been shown that performing acts of kindness can help improve well-being and feelings of sadness and depression. Giving back to those who need it the most is a great way of rechanneling the copious amounts of love that you have to give to the world.

 

  1. Most Of All, Remind Yourself of All The Great Things In Your Life
    Always remember, it’s not the end of the world.
    You have made it through struggles in the past and you will continue to do so for the rest of your life. You are a warrior. Always remember the people in your life who love you and cherish you – your family, friends, children, relatives. Be thankful for the roof you have over your head, the food you have on your table and the love that you have received and have given. You’ll make it through this.

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I hope that the above tips aid you in your time of need – always remember, when you go through battles, you come out stronger. Never let a breakup define you because you have so much to offer this world!